Our Post Valentine’s Celebration 2014

We had such a great post Valentine celebration with my family at a Korean Restaurant nearby. Just like the usual, we ate out! Food at the restaurant was good. It was worth what we paid for and to think that it was a treat from my husband, that made it even greater.

We ended our day with an awesome movie at home. We watched the entire Iron Man 3 with our girls that made kept them interested finishing to the end. All in all, I could say, it was simple yet glorious celebration for us as a couple and as a family.

Here is a photo of us for remembrance of this year’s Valentine’s as well as the Korean food trip we had last night. Thankful to the Lord above for having to spend Valentine’s to my partner in life. Looking forward for more Valentine’s Day celebration in the future.

It is during special occasions that I realized how blessed and thankful I am for not all couples I know have made it this far of their marriage and celebrate Heart’s day together…

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My Cousin to be the Third in Line Marrying a Foreigner

I am happy to know that there’ll be another cousin  on my mother’s side to be the third in line to marry a foreigner. She is (or will be) the third following me and my other cousin who is also in the USA.

Hopefully, things will work out fine between her and her boyfriend from Australia. Cross fingers with that. Let the the Carael genes multiply mixed with foreign blood equals to beautiful babies.

As far as I know, she is working on fixing the error of her birth certificate so then she and her boyfriend can file for a tourist visa for her to visit  Australia. How exciting? And how glad it is to know that she is taking footsteps towards a better and brighter future.

Her recent visit to our grandmother’s hometown where she grew up surely made our grandmother happy for she have not seen Abing for over a decade. If it wasn’t because of the birth certificate error, she wouldn’t pay a visit to her grandma but anyway. It happened, her destiny brought her where she is right now.

To you my cousin, dear! Congrats on finding the man you deserve. My only wish for you is to be successful in your love life, good luck in your adjustments in a foreign country and most of all may you keep your feet on the ground and never change.

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My Miracle, You’re the Answer to My Prayer

“The poorest man of all men is not a man without a cent but a man without a dream.”

Like any ordinary girl, I have dreams and ambitions. Since I was a kid I dreamt of marrying an American man. I am very much attracted to their physical appearance and the thought that mixed race babies are appealing to me. I have always promised myself to marry one someday.

During my third and fourth years in high school, I started seeing tons of US Navies and Marines in our city. I was too young and naive at the time that I even cut classes just to see them. Most of these men were at the Balikatan Exercises in Luzon, a joint military exercises between the Americans and the Filipino soldiers during former President Estrada’s term. My friends and I went to where their ship  docked (Ibo, Lapu-lapu City) to see them. We made friends with a few and it was indeed a great experience to have at least known some foreign men in them. As determined as I was to make it possible for me to communicate with the man in my dreams, I learned the internet.I started exchanging e-mails when I was 17, met a few in person.

At age 18, I had my first American boyfriend from Arkansas. I was extremely happy then because he was my type. Boy, he was very attractive with his blond hair and blue eyes. He went to visit me in my hometown and finally met him in person. It didn’t work for us though because we broke up after 5 months. I was devastated. He broke up with me for no apparent reason at all. I tried reaching him on the phone several times at first but all I got was his answering machine. Later on, he spoke to me but in a cold manner. I couldn’t believe what he did to me. It took a while for me to recover from that heart ache. I had moved on anyway.

Months later I met another guy online who was from California. He had the same physical attributes as the former guy. Oh my, I can’t believe I easily fall for the same looks. For the second time around, I got all disappointed again as the guy came to meet two other ladies besides me. I thought for sure we have been serious to each other. I had been expecting too much all along. Not only that I saw other two girls but he had been window shopping for more. That was a shame. I was all embarrassed I couldn’t stand it, I had to run out of the airport where I went to fetch him. He was sorry and begged for me to marry him. I didn’t get fooled by his drama and ended everything between us.

I didn’t give up and moved on to another hope of meeting someone I deserve. I met another one who was from Florida. He was all busy with his business so did with his child in his previous marriage. He had the chance to tour Europe and never to see me. It was all over for us after a year of waiting.

I’ve been hurt a few times and along the way it made me even pickier. I had almost found anything wrong in a person just to make sure I will end up with someone truthful to me. In just a little mistake such as misspelling of certain words put me off so easily from the guy.

It was in the middle of Feb.2004 on Cherry Blossoms, I was checking my account to see who sent me a message. There were few mails and Sandy was one of them who wrote me. He first said hi along with all other information about him. I looked at his pictures posted and oh, he is so cute! And so I got back to his mail and replied with just very short note telling that he is cute and that I want to get to know more about him. That’s all it. The following day, he sent his quick reply again but I just ignored it, never took the time to reply him back because I was not interested with him.

Meantime, I myself was busy chatting and e-mailing with others except him. I was still trying hard to look for a possible mate who can bring me to the aisle. There came a time, it was 2 weeks after he sent me his first mail actually when I checked my mails and it was empty. I returned to his dormant mail which I never tried to response and read it again. I did reply to it and gave my Yahoo ID so we get to chat. Yes, for the first time we chatted. I could tell the way he hurl his words to me that he is the gentleman type, soft spoken and polite. But still I’m not interested with him because I thought “he’s too good-looking for me” and enough for cute men, they only play with your heart.

I asked him money with the intention of pushing him away and never wanting to chat with me again because I know for a fact once you ask money from foreigners they will never get back to you and get turned off for they might think that you’re only up to it. This man is different. He never got discouraged instead he sent me $100 the following day. I really was surprised once informed by the money transfer office that I got something from him. So I got the money and thanked him with a promise to myself that I will only focus on him.

After four months of exchanging e-mails, chats and phone calls he decided to see me. It was in time for my 21st birthday when he proposed to me telling my father, “Elson, I came across a thousand miles to marry Anne because I’m in love with her”. Even before he turned to me and declared his intention, I got teary-eyed already.

The moment, he knelt down holding the engagement ring while the other hand holding my hand asking, “Anne, will you marry me?” I got speechless. Where did my voice go? Could it be that my tongue shrunk? Now crying even more and finally I was able to respond, “Yes, I will marry you, Sandy” We got formally engaged on my 21st birthday and for me it was already a big dream come true.

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… there is more to this photo that meets the eye of my ordinary readers, for me it was so special for it was the beginning of my quest towards building a family of my own….

Another 4 months had passed and he visited me for the second time for our big day — the wedding. It was I who exerted much effort to make our wedding beautiful and memorable to all who witness and thank goodness, it went well.

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….the day he officially gave his name to me, October 16,2004 at Bellavista Hotel Rooftop…
 

Finally, I got my visa to come and be united with him in the states after a painstaking 9 months of waiting for the whole process to be done. Now I am so much happier. After all those thunderstorms in my life, I was able to overcome it all and thank God for the strength He had given me. Thanks to Him for He was always being there for me!

P.S WE ARE NOW BLESSED WITH TWO BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTERS NAMED Jadyn and Megan. As for our marriage, we are celebrating ten years  today, October 16,2014 (Yehheyy cheers to that) happy and fulfilled as a wife, as a woman and as a mother!

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… Jadyn is 5 and 1/2 years old and Megan is 25 months old when this picture was taken…

Life’s lesson I’ve learnt is that, it only takes courage and determination to achieve the hardest goal you’ve ever thought you have in your life. I remember my family and friends told me “I am too ambitious to dream of marrying an American”. I had this saying before, By hook or by crook, whatever happens I will marry the man of my dreams”. I could say that I am stronger now. I am proud of my past. If not because of it, I would not be here right now living happily with my wonderful husband and daughters. I hope this will serve as inspiration to those who lost hope finding their love.

P.S. You see, I felt I was in a hurry finding love but it took me almost 4 years finding the right one. I was a girl who was into foreigners but I was able to preserve myself for the man I marry. Albeit meeting tons of Western men, I take pride of myself that my husband was the only man I slept with. I have always been a “conservative” type of woman who believes a woman should only submit her body to the man right after marriage. I did not even sleep with him in the hotel room during his first visit. I would always come home every night to my parents’ house for I know they were waiting on me…

To my mother in-law whom I have not met in person, hope you read this. UNLESS YOU KNOW MY STORY, DON’T JUDGE ME.

Enough blah blah, duh but anyways… CHEERS TO BOTH OF US, IT’S OUR 10TH YEAR WEDDING ANNIVERSARY!!!

Here’s us today, ten years later!
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The Big 30

So today, we celebrated my big 30th birthday. It started with a surprise two dozens of roses waiting on me on my desk, thanks to the husband who after all these years remained sweet and romantic to me. He sure knows how to flatter my heart. I was honestly very surprised of the roses because we have been married for a while now and roses are no longer “uso“.

Then in the evening, he treat us out to dinner at Red Lobster, there I was able to eat a lobster tail along with other great yummylicious seafood creatures. All in all, my birthday went great with my family around, I couldn’t ask for a better way to celebrate it. I am very thankful to God for another year of my life. Looking forward for more birthdays to come with my family and hopefully… grandchildren 20 years from now…

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Family Isn’t Always Blood

I so agree with the statement below. Family isn’t always blood but people  that touched your heart the most, people who show concern to you and care for you are family.

Second photo is of our first born and her grandma Jean. Jean is not related to us by blood but she serves/stands as our children’s grandma for she accepted them/us as her own family and so do we. You might ask me, where their real grandma is? Well, that could be a one million dollar question our children would have to ask us someday.

The fact is, they have not known or met their American grandma (my husband’s mother) for I have been judged since the beginning of my relationship with her son so we kept her out of our lives. She also denies her two grandchildren because I am a foreigner and she cannot accept that her son is happy with a Filipina.

It is just so awful how someone could be so judgmental without even knowing the person first. Well, it is her loss anyway, not ours. She missed the opportunities how it is to live having grand kids around being showered with tons of love and kisses.

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Eight Years Later

Dreams do come true! Sounds like a famous line on fairy tale stories but yes, dreams do come true. I am one living proof of it. Who would have thought that we’ve gone this far in our marriage? We have over come trials and obstacles of our life together yet we were able to surpass them all.

Before there were just the two of us… and eight years later, there are five of us! Two beautiful girls areAL added to our family and one female dog, lol. Below photos are our post eighth year wedding anniversary dinner. Sorry for the very late post, I have been so busy here…

In case you wanna know how our marriage is? STRONG, HAPPY and THE REAL THING…


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Brunch Is Served

This is what I need sometimes, someone is cooking my brunch today and that is no other than my husband. I deserve it and I feel lucky today… haha just today… I fed my hungry stomach now awaiting for my little one to wake up so I can feed her.

It’s a lazy cold Saturday morning here in our place and I’m loving it. I have no plan of going out today… all I wanna do is stay home, be on the computer, snuggle under the sheets, play with the girls and perhaps clean the house a little bit.

Thank you all for dropping by my blog today. What about you guys, what do you plan to do today? Anything else that gives you happiness today? Hangout in the mall maybe or just a party with friends? Hope you all have a nice weekend and enjoy!

Bad Mood Because I Was Hungry And A Lot Of Whining Babies

Yesterday was a pretty busy for me. In the morning I blogged as much as I could and right after lunch I prepared the kids so we could go out to mail some stuff and ran to the grocery store to finish my first born’s school shopping. I also did shop some lunchables for her and some individually packed drinks for school on Monday. Before I could finish shopping, Megan started to be whiny and cranky while in the cart so I gave her some snacks that put her to shut her mouth. Jadyn kept pointing at toys I’m not interested in buying and would just walked away from me due to distraction of some really girly stuff in the store. I had to keep calling her just so she won’t get lost.

She got quiet then the big sister began whining too. Arggsss made me wanna pull my hair. All I wanted is get out of that store and go home. Things weren’t easy, while at the register Megan whined again and wanted to be carried while I was in the midst of putting back the bagged stuff in the cart. So I had her in my one arm and the other hand was doing the bags.

Finally, we drove back home but then the trouble didn’t stop there, Jadyn was all cranky getting out the carseat, I almost broke my husband’s grilling egg or kamado, Megan wanted to be carried again and most of all I WAS VERY HUNGRY. I’ve lost all my patience by then and just screamed at everybody. Even my husband noticed that I wasn’t in good mood.

As soon as I’ve eaten, I felt a little better and went to the study, told my husband I felt better lol because I fed my hungry stomach. Going out with two girls and do some errands is no longer fun for me. A lot of stuff need to be done before we could all go out and be ready.

 

Being A Family Means…

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FAMILY- the basic unit in society.

Growing up I didn’t dream of anything but having my own family, to become a wife and a mother. I didn’t even dream of becoming a career woman, not once. Having a family is important for us to have a sense of belongingness. A family to come home to at the end of the day and a home with a good family in it. I have it and I am happy.

Know the Guidelines to File for Divorce in Indiana

 

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Divorce laws vary from state to state. In this case, you have to be aware of what your rights are for filing divorce in Indiana. Remember that the law and process differ in every state. It is imperative to be equipped with some of the more important laws to be aware of.

Admissible Grounds for Divorce in Indiana

If you are filing for divorce in Indiana, you will need to file a petition of dissolution. This dissolution is concerning marriage, and it can be done in a circuit court or superior court. Individuals that are involved in the divorce must reside in the state for a period of six months. However, they must also be within the county that the divorce is being filed for three months. In Indiana, couples can divorce based on a fault or no-fault reasoning. It fully depends on their circumstances.

Fault or No Fault

Couples can file a no-fault divorce based on one factor. This factor is the inability to save a marriage that is clearly going downhill. In that case, neither spouse will be put at fault. If there is a fault within a divorce claim, there are several factors that need to be fulfilled.

A felony conviction must have occurred after the marriage was completed. If you or your spouse is unable to reproduce, this also counts as grounds for divorce. And, if either spouse is suffering from incurable insanity for two years, this too will count as grounds for fault divorce.

Child Custody in Indiana

The elements that follow child custody in Indiana are many. Most of the primary factors consider the child foremost. The child, if over the age of 14, has the right to express their wishes to the court. The relationships between siblings, parents, and others who can influence the child are reviewed. Where the child attends school, the community around them, the history of child abuse or violence if any, and the physical and mental condition are all aspects the courts deem important.

Alimony

The alimony paid to your spouse will be decided on factors for the interest of the child. For example, if your child has experienced a certain way of living during the marriage, the alimony may be increased in order for them to continue living this way. Also, as with most divorce laws, the financial, emotional, educational, and physical needs of the child will determine the size of the alimony payment.

Filing for divorce entails a complex process; you need to deal with a lot of paperwork and face different arrangements. It is in your best interest to seek advice and get a divorce lawyer who can legally represent you and effectively handle your case.