Celebrated Our 10th Year Wedding Anniversary

Hoorah to us! We’ve made it to ten years of our marriage still happy and committed to each other. It is a 2-day celebration for us. We did not go out on the actual day of our anniversary because it was a school day although my husband took a day off but we decided to go out on a weekend which happened yesterday and today.

We took our girls to Mainstay Farm as what we have already planned. We had such a blast there, plenty of great outdoor activities for the kids that really got them into using their energy. We make a tradition that we take a family photo each passing anniversary so, we made sure before we leave the farm, we will have our family photo which we did.

Second day was today, we went out to DSW shoe store and grabbed me two pairs of shoes, a pair of Nike running shoes (this is to encourage me to walk/workout someday, for now I will just let them sit in the closet) and flat Tommy Hilfiger sandals, after DSW, we headed for a dinner at a Hibachi and Sushi Japanese restaurant nearby. Weekend well spent with the family, I shall say!

Thankful to God for giving us another fruitful year of our marriage. Nothing is more consoling than a husband who said, “cheers to us for a happy marriage”. It makes me glad inside even we’ve been together for a decade, he still feels that way! Marriage is hard work. It takes two to tango, if one fails, then I don’t think it will work.

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… us before dinner, photo below…
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Cheers! It’s Our 10th Year Wedding Anniversary Today!

Here’s a collection of our photos put into slideshow during our engagement, wedding, during our early years together when I was still in the Philippines, and skipped to our 5th until the 9th year anniversary… I couldn’t find the first-fourth anniversary photos so, I apologize.

This with matching music of my choice for I believe, “Angels Brought Me Here” told my story and it suits how I feel towards my husband from the very beginning up to this day! Hope you all will enjoy the slideshow. Thanks for viewing!

 As we celebrate our wedding anniversary today, I am also celebrating silently for the passing of my father, Elson. Three years ago today, he rested peacefully and joined with Jesus in Heaven. ‘Pa, wherever you are, I hope you are happy and know I missed you so very very much and wishing you were still here with us….

 

 

As Good As “Breaking Bad”

If you have seen the t.v show called “Breaking Bad” then you would agree with me that it was undoubtedly a very good show where Walter White got to do what he wanted to do with his enemies at the end of the show. It was a very satisfying ending for most of the people who watched it. Same goes when you just had an intimate moment with your partner and he’d utter, love you deeply and it’s so good like Breaking Bad… when you hear that as a woman… ahhhh not is more flattering than that, you know what I mean?

 

 

 

#TBT: Ten Years Ago

Who would have thought that we could reach ten years of our relationship knowing that we came from two different worlds yet we get along very well despite of imperfections we have. This photo is my entry for Throwback Thursday on Facebook. I did not realize that it has been over ten years since me and my husband met until I saw this photo. This was taken during his first visit to the Philippines to see me 2004. With him is my then 4 years old sister.

This was also the day I turned 21 and the day he got on his knees to propose for marriage. I will never forget that day in my life. It was so significant and my first momentous event ever took place in my life. We will be celebrating our ten years of marriage on October. I am excited, I got a lot of unspoken words I need to write so that he will be able to know my thoughts and how I feel towards about our years of togetherness for a decade!

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I Trusted God with My Future

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Looking back 10 years ago or so, I was one lonely girl who wanted nothing but marry an American. I wanted to be a mother, to be a wife and build a family. Sounds pretty easy for some but finding the right person definitely the hardest part. I was determined and did not give up.

I remember, I had to sacrifice not eating my snacks in school (sucking up my own saliva watching my classmates having their cold coke and bread), walk from home to school so I could save up some money for my long chats every Saturday and took advantage of the free internet hour at a school computer lab. If I go to internet cafes, it cost me $25 with webcam. Back then, I had no job, I was a full-time college student, my parents didn’t give me extra for chats so I really had to save my own money so that I can have something to use for chats. 25 pesos an hour was pretty expensive for me. I joined several online dating sites, met countless men in person from all over the world, got heart-broken three times, waited 4 years before I met my ex-fiance (now my husband).

I still remember vividly when I came home every after chat from the internet cafe and didn’t have a good chat, I would sob myself to tears and just feeling I was in the dark. I even questioned God if I could ever find that man who can complete my life. I did not tell anybody what I was going through. I just kept chatting until one day, this man from Cherryblossoms named Sandy sent an email to me.

From then on, we became constant chatmates, engaged, got married and happily married for over 9 years (story of how our relations begun can be read HERE). So, the reason why I am writing this today is because, to constantly remind myself that MY BIG PRAYER HAD BEEN ANSWERED. Had I not trusted God, would I live my dream life I am living today?

I can attest to what the bible verse above for I have experienced it, I am a living witness of God’s promise and intention for my life. Now I know why I didn’t get married to one of those guys I met in the past for He had better plans for me, plans to prosper me and not to harm me. Plans to give me hope and a future.

I am living my life exactly how I pictured out ten years ago! I am happy, satisfied and contented. Thank God for giving me this kind of life. Thank God for giving me a fruitful marriage, for giving me a husband who has been wonderful since day one, for the healthy and beautiful children and for the privilege  of being able to stay at home to take care of my family. For the skills of blogging and couponing for they enable me to contribute to our family and my family in the Philippines.

This is my own definition of “success”. For me success is not about fame and spotlight, it is about achieving your dreams in life, the life you wanted to live and being happy with the people that surround you.

I OWE EVERYTHING TO YOU, OH LORD!

Our Post Valentine’s Celebration 2014

We had such a great post Valentine celebration with my family at a Korean Restaurant nearby. Just like the usual, we ate out! Food at the restaurant was good. It was worth what we paid for and to think that it was a treat from my husband, that made it even greater.

We ended our day with an awesome movie at home. We watched the entire Iron Man 3 with our girls that made kept them interested finishing to the end. All in all, I could say, it was simple yet glorious celebration for us as a couple and as a family.

Here is a photo of us for remembrance of this year’s Valentine’s as well as the Korean food trip we had last night. Thankful to the Lord above for having to spend Valentine’s to my partner in life. Looking forward for more Valentine’s Day celebration in the future.

It is during special occasions that I realized how blessed and thankful I am for not all couples I know have made it this far of their marriage and celebrate Heart’s day together…

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Chocolate Arrangement in a Vase on Valentine’s Day

I feel special today. My husband did not forget me on this very Heart’s Day. Here’s a Hershey’s chocolate arrangement in a vase that he gave me this morning. Indeed a sweet start of my day. I love you my husband with all my heart! Thank you for your ever loving, sweet and kind thoughts towards your wife.

Chocolates to eat, surely me and the girls can have something to munch for  days to come! We have been married for 9 years and four months yet he maintains that sweet gesture he showed me since the beginning of our courtship. I am  lucky and blessed to have found the right man.

When I was still in the Philippines, he used to send me greeting cards in snail mails and  fresh flowers deliveries in special occasions… and 9 years later, he still does that. Aren’t I the luckiest?

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A Courageous Woman

I hear stories of women featured on the news or on t.v shows who are in abusive relationships, how they deal with it for years, the pain and sufferings in the hands of their “supposed-to-be” husbands. Most stories were revealed that only very few of these women were able to get out of the unhealthy marriage or relationships they’re in. I somehow don’t understand that why it is hard to get out.

Anyway, speaking of which, I know someone in person and in real life who I say is brave and courageous enough to do what is right. She is also a Filipina and got married to a white man not even a year ago and they’re already living apart. There is a big problem with the man that made her leave him, hopefully for good.

I commend her for doing such thing. From the beginning all she had to endure is the pain and troubles that her husband caused her. Before they got married, I told her to make a really wise decision whether she’d marry him or not that she was well aware of  the problem that seemed to be no cure. She married him anyway and for months she she suffered (emotionally battered) and just after the New Year, she left him. I am in no position to disclose the details as to why they separated. All I know is that SHE HAS DONE the right thing for her and his own good. She deserves someone better, she deserves to be happy, respected and loved. Eventually she’ll find that peace and good life every woman is praying!

My Cousin to be the Third in Line Marrying a Foreigner

I am happy to know that there’ll be another cousin  on my mother’s side to be the third in line to marry a foreigner. She is (or will be) the third following me and my other cousin who is also in the USA.

Hopefully, things will work out fine between her and her boyfriend from Australia. Cross fingers with that. Let the the Carael genes multiply mixed with foreign blood equals to beautiful babies.

As far as I know, she is working on fixing the error of her birth certificate so then she and her boyfriend can file for a tourist visa for her to visit  Australia. How exciting? And how glad it is to know that she is taking footsteps towards a better and brighter future.

Her recent visit to our grandmother’s hometown where she grew up surely made our grandmother happy for she have not seen Abing for over a decade. If it wasn’t because of the birth certificate error, she wouldn’t pay a visit to her grandma but anyway. It happened, her destiny brought her where she is right now.

To you my cousin, dear! Congrats on finding the man you deserve. My only wish for you is to be successful in your love life, good luck in your adjustments in a foreign country and most of all may you keep your feet on the ground and never change.

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My Miracle, You’re the Answer to My Prayer

“The poorest man of all men is not a man without a cent but a man without a dream.”

Like any ordinary girl, I have dreams and ambitions. Since I was a kid I dreamt of marrying an American man. I am very much attracted to their physical appearance and the thought that mixed race babies are appealing to me. I have always promised myself to marry one someday.

During my third and fourth years in high school, I started seeing tons of US Navies and Marines in our city. I was too young and naive at the time that I even cut classes just to see them. Most of these men were at the Balikatan Exercises in Luzon, a joint military exercises between the Americans and the Filipino soldiers during former President Estrada’s term. My friends and I went to where their ship  docked (Ibo, Lapu-lapu City) to see them. We made friends with a few and it was indeed a great experience to have at least known some foreign men in them. As determined as I was to make it possible for me to communicate with the man in my dreams, I learned the internet.I started exchanging e-mails when I was 17, met a few in person.

At age 18, I had my first American boyfriend from Arkansas. I was extremely happy then because he was my type. Boy, he was very attractive with his blond hair and blue eyes. He went to visit me in my hometown and finally met him in person. It didn’t work for us though because we broke up after 5 months. I was devastated. He broke up with me for no apparent reason at all. I tried reaching him on the phone several times at first but all I got was his answering machine. Later on, he spoke to me but in a cold manner. I couldn’t believe what he did to me. It took a while for me to recover from that heart ache. I had moved on anyway.

Months later I met another guy online who was from California. He had the same physical attributes as the former guy. Oh my, I can’t believe I easily fall for the same looks. For the second time around, I got all disappointed again as the guy came to meet two other ladies besides me. I thought for sure we have been serious to each other. I had been expecting too much all along. Not only that I saw other two girls but he had been window shopping for more. That was a shame. I was all embarrassed I couldn’t stand it, I had to run out of the airport where I went to fetch him. He was sorry and begged for me to marry him. I didn’t get fooled by his drama and ended everything between us.

I didn’t give up and moved on to another hope of meeting someone I deserve. I met another one who was from Florida. He was all busy with his business so did with his child in his previous marriage. He had the chance to tour Europe and never to see me. It was all over for us after a year of waiting.

I’ve been hurt a few times and along the way it made me even pickier. I had almost found anything wrong in a person just to make sure I will end up with someone truthful to me. In just a little mistake such as misspelling of certain words put me off so easily from the guy.

It was in the middle of Feb.2004 on Cherry Blossoms, I was checking my account to see who sent me a message. There were few mails and Sandy was one of them who wrote me. He first said hi along with all other information about him. I looked at his pictures posted and oh, he is so cute! And so I got back to his mail and replied with just very short note telling that he is cute and that I want to get to know more about him. That’s all it. The following day, he sent his quick reply again but I just ignored it, never took the time to reply him back because I was not interested with him.

Meantime, I myself was busy chatting and e-mailing with others except him. I was still trying hard to look for a possible mate who can bring me to the aisle. There came a time, it was 2 weeks after he sent me his first mail actually when I checked my mails and it was empty. I returned to his dormant mail which I never tried to response and read it again. I did reply to it and gave my Yahoo ID so we get to chat. Yes, for the first time we chatted. I could tell the way he hurl his words to me that he is the gentleman type, soft spoken and polite. But still I’m not interested with him because I thought “he’s too good-looking for me” and enough for cute men, they only play with your heart.

I asked him money with the intention of pushing him away and never wanting to chat with me again because I know for a fact once you ask money from foreigners they will never get back to you and get turned off for they might think that you’re only up to it. This man is different. He never got discouraged instead he sent me $100 the following day. I really was surprised once informed by the money transfer office that I got something from him. So I got the money and thanked him with a promise to myself that I will only focus on him.

After four months of exchanging e-mails, chats and phone calls he decided to see me. It was in time for my 21st birthday when he proposed to me telling my father, “Elson, I came across a thousand miles to marry Anne because I’m in love with her”. Even before he turned to me and declared his intention, I got teary-eyed already.

The moment, he knelt down holding the engagement ring while the other hand holding my hand asking, “Anne, will you marry me?” I got speechless. Where did my voice go? Could it be that my tongue shrunk? Now crying even more and finally I was able to respond, “Yes, I will marry you, Sandy” We got formally engaged on my 21st birthday and for me it was already a big dream come true.

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… there is more to this photo that meets the eye of my ordinary readers, for me it was so special for it was the beginning of my quest towards building a family of my own….

Another 4 months had passed and he visited me for the second time for our big day — the wedding. It was I who exerted much effort to make our wedding beautiful and memorable to all who witness and thank goodness, it went well.

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….the day he officially gave his name to me, October 16,2004 at Bellavista Hotel Rooftop…
 

Finally, I got my visa to come and be united with him in the states after a painstaking 9 months of waiting for the whole process to be done. Now I am so much happier. After all those thunderstorms in my life, I was able to overcome it all and thank God for the strength He had given me. Thanks to Him for He was always being there for me!

P.S WE ARE NOW BLESSED WITH TWO BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTERS NAMED Jadyn and Megan. As for our marriage, we are celebrating ten years  today, October 16,2014 (Yehheyy cheers to that) happy and fulfilled as a wife, as a woman and as a mother!

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… Jadyn is 5 and 1/2 years old and Megan is 25 months old when this picture was taken…

Life’s lesson I’ve learnt is that, it only takes courage and determination to achieve the hardest goal you’ve ever thought you have in your life. I remember my family and friends told me “I am too ambitious to dream of marrying an American”. I had this saying before, By hook or by crook, whatever happens I will marry the man of my dreams”. I could say that I am stronger now. I am proud of my past. If not because of it, I would not be here right now living happily with my wonderful husband and daughters. I hope this will serve as inspiration to those who lost hope finding their love.

P.S. You see, I felt I was in a hurry finding love but it took me almost 4 years finding the right one. I was a girl who was into foreigners but I was able to preserve myself for the man I marry. Albeit meeting tons of Western men, I take pride of myself that my husband was the only man I slept with. I have always been a “conservative” type of woman who believes a woman should only submit her body to the man right after marriage. I did not even sleep with him in the hotel room during his first visit. I would always come home every night to my parents’ house for I know they were waiting on me…

To my mother in-law whom I have not met in person, hope you read this. UNLESS YOU KNOW MY STORY, DON’T JUDGE ME.

Enough blah blah, duh but anyways… CHEERS TO BOTH OF US, IT’S OUR 10TH YEAR WEDDING ANNIVERSARY!!!

Here’s us today, ten years later!
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