Two Days into Our Anniversary

It is almost hard to believe that me and my husband have been married for almost 9 years. Just two more days and we will be celebrating the most important event in our lives. Yes, it has been that long already! I feel blessed for a happy and healthy marriage God intended us to have. Well, I should give credits firstly to God and secondly to my husband, he is such a good husband to me, he is easy to get along with and truly is a good man. If I didn’t marry a good man, I don’t think our marriage would last long.

The rings that I have been proudly wearing represent forever and never ending, I pray everyday that our marriage and the love we have for each other is never fading. Yes, I am excited for our anniversary. It is something I am so proud of achieving in my life because not all people stayed married this long and have a strong foundation like what we have.

We have plans what to do already. Plans for the entire family not just for us. While some couples enjoy their anniversary without their kids but I can’t imagine being out there just the two of us because we’ve always been together in every occasion. The kids just make the event more fun and exciting!

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The Highest Flattery I Received from my Spouse

I just subscribed to a Cosmopolitan magazine, I received two issues so far. I never thought this magazine could be this interesting because of their useful love, lust and sex tips/advice they provide to their readers. It is the only thing I am interested in, I am not into makeup or beauty products so I just skip the pages, lol.

I have been married for soon 9 years and I can say, I am happy with the man I’m with for this long. Not only we do have something special but also I say it, as a woman that we do have a good sex life. The fire is still burning after all these years. I am glad I have a husband who is healthy and keeps up with me although he is an older guy.

Anyway, looking at the magazine’s cover, you can tell how interested I am to learning new sex moves or anything that is beneficial to my marriage. I am married but that doesn’t mean I know everything already. I am open to learning new things when given a chance and through reading I gain new ideas.

Nothing is more heart-melting than receiving the highest flattery from my better half saying I am “so much better than a porn star”. And he said that right after our intimate moment together, awss! Haba ng hair ko day! After hearing those words I am confident being with him more than ever and will continue to please him as long as we’re together.

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The Big 30

So today, we celebrated my big 30th birthday. It started with a surprise two dozens of roses waiting on me on my desk, thanks to the husband who after all these years remained sweet and romantic to me. He sure knows how to flatter my heart. I was honestly very surprised of the roses because we have been married for a while now and roses are no longer “uso“.

Then in the evening, he treat us out to dinner at Red Lobster, there I was able to eat a lobster tail along with other great yummylicious seafood creatures. All in all, my birthday went great with my family around, I couldn’t ask for a better way to celebrate it. I am very thankful to God for another year of my life. Looking forward for more birthdays to come with my family and hopefully… grandchildren 20 years from now…

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HEAR WHAT OPRAH WINFREY HAD TO SAY ABOUT MEN

It has been shared on Facebook a thousand times and I am sharing it here too so my dear readers can get an insight as to why men would stay or not. Enjoy!

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within. Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he has has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending… Compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage… Deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE
individuals. Look for someone complimentary…
not supplementary.

Dating is fun… Even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes… When a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him ~ he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother’s house. Never co-sign for a man. Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phil says… You should know that: You’re the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he’ll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he’s not the only one. They’re all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one. Ladies take care of your own hearts… ❤

Family Isn’t Always Blood

I so agree with the statement below. Family isn’t always blood but people  that touched your heart the most, people who show concern to you and care for you are family.

Second photo is of our first born and her grandma Jean. Jean is not related to us by blood but she serves/stands as our children’s grandma for she accepted them/us as her own family and so do we. You might ask me, where their real grandma is? Well, that could be a one million dollar question our children would have to ask us someday.

The fact is, they have not known or met their American grandma (my husband’s mother) for I have been judged since the beginning of my relationship with her son so we kept her out of our lives. She also denies her two grandchildren because I am a foreigner and she cannot accept that her son is happy with a Filipina.

It is just so awful how someone could be so judgmental without even knowing the person first. Well, it is her loss anyway, not ours. She missed the opportunities how it is to live having grand kids around being showered with tons of love and kisses.

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I’m Touched by His Thoughtfulness

The words that my husband told me first thing I woke up this morning just made my day and have been thinking about it all day today. He said that he took a day off for today so we can go to the Asian restaurant for dinner. I asked him why? He simply replied, because it’s Valentine’s Day tomorrow. I was like… what? Truly I did not expect that he would do that. Who among you here who’s husband taking a day off just so he can treat his wife and family out for dinner? This in celebration for Valentine’s Day in advance.

I am so touched really. He made me feel special for doing such simple gesture yet it is a whole lotta big deal for me. I am just flattered. Not to mention he also bought me lilies in a basket. It’s a pink one and surely I could grow these flowers for Spring in remembrance of Valentine’s Day. Photos will be posted soon. Thank God for such caring, loving and sweet husband I have.

He Finally Agreed with Me

Thank God for my husband finally  agreed with me going home sometime this year. I don’t know when is the exact month or date but the plan is final. Yes, I am going home with my two girls! Hopefully, I’ll be able to save up enough money so when the right time comes, we can fly.

Is it obvious that I’m excited? Oh yeah and there is no denying to that. It felt like I have not been home for years even though I was there last October 2011. My last visit to my homeland wasn’t planned at all, it was all because of my father’s passing and stayed only two weeks which for me a bittersweet one.

This time around, I would make sure that I would stay for five weeks and make the most out of my vacation so there’ll be no regrets. Also I cannot wait to pamper myself, go to a salon, have a total body massage once a week, mani/pedi, eat everything I want, hang out with my old friends, just sit and talk/hang out with my family…. arggssss I can’t wait…

Easy to Put on Pounds

Like most of you out there, you may have noticed that it is so easy to put on pounds and difficult to shed them. I must agree to that because I too, was so shocked upon weighing myself yesterday afternoon and found out I actually gained 4.5 pounds over the last two weeks of staying at home, eating, sleeping, computer, cooking and a bit of chores. I really thought I still weigh 94 pounds although I feel my belly is a bit heavy.

Anyway, yes I am now 4 pounds heavier than what I like I should weigh but I don’t worry much about that. I know I am easy to lose weight and classes start Tuesday, the Calvary of waking up early morning everyday and having to go out in the cold temperature every morning will be my routine again until June 7th. That should alone help me to lose some extra pounds. You see, it is not hard to lose weight after all. All it takes is to be stressed, busy and mobile.

A 10-Year Old Girl Who Thinks my Husband is Very Old

We have this neighbor whom Jadyn plays a lot every weekend. Her grandma lives next door and so she visits her when there are no classes. She introduced us to her friend, a ten-year old girl whom Jadyn became friends with over a short course of time.

One weekend afternoon, this ten-year old girl started a conversation with me while I was in the kitchen cooking for dinner. At first she asked for my age and I told her I am 29 years old. She then asked, how old is Jadyn’s daddy and answered her honestly, he is 56 years old.

Upon hearing that, she was like “that is very old!” with a disbelief expression in her face although she was smiling but not sarcastic or anything. It was just a plain innocent question she asked and when I gave her the answer, that probably startled her a bit.

I then explained to her that I prefer OLDER MEN because younger men or guys are screwed up. Older men take care of their family. And with that simple answer I gave her, she was kind of satisfied and contented of what she heard. I was pretty sure she understood  me for  after she heard what she had to hear, she changed topic and talked just like a normal ten-year old girl should talk.

…. and then I was left alone… saying, “hmmmmmmm that was interesting!”

Broken Marriage

I knew that wedding we attended six years ago wouldn’t last forever. I saw how sweet and loving the bride and groom were but at the back of my mind, their marriage wouldn’t last for a long time.

Six years later…. just yesterday the husband told me that the groom “used to be his friend” has several police records. He ran his name on his computer and there he found an ex-friend’s name arrested for hitting his wife, not just once but several records were found.

Their situation must be very bad for they are in the point of hitting and hurting each other. Where’s the love there? Screwed up people.