Celebrated Our 10th Year Wedding Anniversary

Hoorah to us! We’ve made it to ten years of our marriage still happy and committed to each other. It is a 2-day celebration for us. We did not go out on the actual day of our anniversary because it was a school day although my husband took a day off but we decided to go out on a weekend which happened yesterday and today.

We took our girls to Mainstay Farm as what we have already planned. We had such a blast there, plenty of great outdoor activities for the kids that really got them into using their energy. We make a tradition that we take a family photo each passing anniversary so, we made sure before we leave the farm, we will have our family photo which we did.

Second day was today, we went out to DSW shoe store and grabbed me two pairs of shoes, a pair of Nike running shoes (this is to encourage me to walk/workout someday, for now I will just let them sit in the closet) and flat Tommy Hilfiger sandals, after DSW, we headed for a dinner at a Hibachi and Sushi Japanese restaurant nearby. Weekend well spent with the family, I shall say!

Thankful to God for giving us another fruitful year of our marriage. Nothing is more consoling than a husband who said, “cheers to us for a happy marriage”. It makes me glad inside even we’ve been together for a decade, he still feels that way! Marriage is hard work. It takes two to tango, if one fails, then I don’t think it will work.

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… us before dinner, photo below…
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#TBT: Ten Years Ago

Who would have thought that we could reach ten years of our relationship knowing that we came from two different worlds yet we get along very well despite of imperfections we have. This photo is my entry for Throwback Thursday on Facebook. I did not realize that it has been over ten years since me and my husband met until I saw this photo. This was taken during his first visit to the Philippines to see me 2004. With him is my then 4 years old sister.

This was also the day I turned 21 and the day he got on his knees to propose for marriage. I will never forget that day in my life. It was so significant and my first momentous event ever took place in my life. We will be celebrating our ten years of marriage on October. I am excited, I got a lot of unspoken words I need to write so that he will be able to know my thoughts and how I feel towards about our years of togetherness for a decade!

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A Courageous Woman

I hear stories of women featured on the news or on t.v shows who are in abusive relationships, how they deal with it for years, the pain and sufferings in the hands of their “supposed-to-be” husbands. Most stories were revealed that only very few of these women were able to get out of the unhealthy marriage or relationships they’re in. I somehow don’t understand that why it is hard to get out.

Anyway, speaking of which, I know someone in person and in real life who I say is brave and courageous enough to do what is right. She is also a Filipina and got married to a white man not even a year ago and they’re already living apart. There is a big problem with the man that made her leave him, hopefully for good.

I commend her for doing such thing. From the beginning all she had to endure is the pain and troubles that her husband caused her. Before they got married, I told her to make a really wise decision whether she’d marry him or not that she was well aware of  the problem that seemed to be no cure. She married him anyway and for months she she suffered (emotionally battered) and just after the New Year, she left him. I am in no position to disclose the details as to why they separated. All I know is that SHE HAS DONE the right thing for her and his own good. She deserves someone better, she deserves to be happy, respected and loved. Eventually she’ll find that peace and good life every woman is praying!

HOW TO MAKE A MAN HAPPY

This has been circulating around Facebook and thought of sharing it here to for my readers. Ah women, they always have a long list for men to follow.

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… photo not mine, I don’t own it.

1. Feed him

2. Sleep with him

3. Leave him with peace

4. Don’t check his phone (Msgs)

5. Don’t bother him with his movements So whats so hard about that ?

HOW TO MAKE A WOMAN HAPPY

It’s really not too difficult but…. To make a woman happy, a man only needs to be:

1. a friend

2. a companion

3. a lover

4. a brother

5. a father

6. a master

7. a chef

8. an electrician

9. a plumber

10. a mechanic

11. a carpenter

12. a decorator

13. a stylist

14. a sexologist

15. a gynecologist

16. a psychologist

17. a pest exterminator

18. a psychiatrist

19. a healer

20. a good listener

21. an organizer

22. a good father

23. very clean

24. sympathetic

25. athletic

26. warm

27. attentive

28. gallant

29. intelligent

30. funny

31. creative

32. tender

33. strong

34. understanding

35. tolerant

36. prudent

37. ambitious

38. capable

39. courageous

40. determined

41. true

42. dependable

43. passionate WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:

44. give her compliments regularly

45. Go shopping with her

46. be honest

47. be very rich

48. not stress her out

49. not look at other girls AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:

50. give her lots of attention

51. give her lots of time, especially time for herself

52. give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes. BUT MOST OF ALL IT IS VERY IMPORTANT

53. never forget *birthdays *anniversaries *valentine *arrangements she makes. —

My Cousin to be the Third in Line Marrying a Foreigner

I am happy to know that there’ll be another cousin  on my mother’s side to be the third in line to marry a foreigner. She is (or will be) the third following me and my other cousin who is also in the USA.

Hopefully, things will work out fine between her and her boyfriend from Australia. Cross fingers with that. Let the the Carael genes multiply mixed with foreign blood equals to beautiful babies.

As far as I know, she is working on fixing the error of her birth certificate so then she and her boyfriend can file for a tourist visa for her to visit  Australia. How exciting? And how glad it is to know that she is taking footsteps towards a better and brighter future.

Her recent visit to our grandmother’s hometown where she grew up surely made our grandmother happy for she have not seen Abing for over a decade. If it wasn’t because of the birth certificate error, she wouldn’t pay a visit to her grandma but anyway. It happened, her destiny brought her where she is right now.

To you my cousin, dear! Congrats on finding the man you deserve. My only wish for you is to be successful in your love life, good luck in your adjustments in a foreign country and most of all may you keep your feet on the ground and never change.

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My Miracle, You’re the Answer to My Prayer

“The poorest man of all men is not a man without a cent but a man without a dream.”

Like any ordinary girl, I have dreams and ambitions. Since I was a kid I dreamt of marrying an American man. I am very much attracted to their physical appearance and the thought that mixed race babies are appealing to me. I have always promised myself to marry one someday.

During my third and fourth years in high school, I started seeing tons of US Navies and Marines in our city. I was too young and naive at the time that I even cut classes just to see them. Most of these men were at the Balikatan Exercises in Luzon, a joint military exercises between the Americans and the Filipino soldiers during former President Estrada’s term. My friends and I went to where their ship  docked (Ibo, Lapu-lapu City) to see them. We made friends with a few and it was indeed a great experience to have at least known some foreign men in them. As determined as I was to make it possible for me to communicate with the man in my dreams, I learned the internet.I started exchanging e-mails when I was 17, met a few in person.

At age 18, I had my first American boyfriend from Arkansas. I was extremely happy then because he was my type. Boy, he was very attractive with his blond hair and blue eyes. He went to visit me in my hometown and finally met him in person. It didn’t work for us though because we broke up after 5 months. I was devastated. He broke up with me for no apparent reason at all. I tried reaching him on the phone several times at first but all I got was his answering machine. Later on, he spoke to me but in a cold manner. I couldn’t believe what he did to me. It took a while for me to recover from that heart ache. I had moved on anyway.

Months later I met another guy online who was from California. He had the same physical attributes as the former guy. Oh my, I can’t believe I easily fall for the same looks. For the second time around, I got all disappointed again as the guy came to meet two other ladies besides me. I thought for sure we have been serious to each other. I had been expecting too much all along. Not only that I saw other two girls but he had been window shopping for more. That was a shame. I was all embarrassed I couldn’t stand it, I had to run out of the airport where I went to fetch him. He was sorry and begged for me to marry him. I didn’t get fooled by his drama and ended everything between us.

I didn’t give up and moved on to another hope of meeting someone I deserve. I met another one who was from Florida. He was all busy with his business so did with his child in his previous marriage. He had the chance to tour Europe and never to see me. It was all over for us after a year of waiting.

I’ve been hurt a few times and along the way it made me even pickier. I had almost found anything wrong in a person just to make sure I will end up with someone truthful to me. In just a little mistake such as misspelling of certain words put me off so easily from the guy.

It was in the middle of Feb.2004 on Cherry Blossoms, I was checking my account to see who sent me a message. There were few mails and Sandy was one of them who wrote me. He first said hi along with all other information about him. I looked at his pictures posted and oh, he is so cute! And so I got back to his mail and replied with just very short note telling that he is cute and that I want to get to know more about him. That’s all it. The following day, he sent his quick reply again but I just ignored it, never took the time to reply him back because I was not interested with him.

Meantime, I myself was busy chatting and e-mailing with others except him. I was still trying hard to look for a possible mate who can bring me to the aisle. There came a time, it was 2 weeks after he sent me his first mail actually when I checked my mails and it was empty. I returned to his dormant mail which I never tried to response and read it again. I did reply to it and gave my Yahoo ID so we get to chat. Yes, for the first time we chatted. I could tell the way he hurl his words to me that he is the gentleman type, soft spoken and polite. But still I’m not interested with him because I thought “he’s too good-looking for me” and enough for cute men, they only play with your heart.

I asked him money with the intention of pushing him away and never wanting to chat with me again because I know for a fact once you ask money from foreigners they will never get back to you and get turned off for they might think that you’re only up to it. This man is different. He never got discouraged instead he sent me $100 the following day. I really was surprised once informed by the money transfer office that I got something from him. So I got the money and thanked him with a promise to myself that I will only focus on him.

After four months of exchanging e-mails, chats and phone calls he decided to see me. It was in time for my 21st birthday when he proposed to me telling my father, “Elson, I came across a thousand miles to marry Anne because I’m in love with her”. Even before he turned to me and declared his intention, I got teary-eyed already.

The moment, he knelt down holding the engagement ring while the other hand holding my hand asking, “Anne, will you marry me?” I got speechless. Where did my voice go? Could it be that my tongue shrunk? Now crying even more and finally I was able to respond, “Yes, I will marry you, Sandy” We got formally engaged on my 21st birthday and for me it was already a big dream come true.

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… there is more to this photo that meets the eye of my ordinary readers, for me it was so special for it was the beginning of my quest towards building a family of my own….

Another 4 months had passed and he visited me for the second time for our big day — the wedding. It was I who exerted much effort to make our wedding beautiful and memorable to all who witness and thank goodness, it went well.

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….the day he officially gave his name to me, October 16,2004 at Bellavista Hotel Rooftop…
 

Finally, I got my visa to come and be united with him in the states after a painstaking 9 months of waiting for the whole process to be done. Now I am so much happier. After all those thunderstorms in my life, I was able to overcome it all and thank God for the strength He had given me. Thanks to Him for He was always being there for me!

P.S WE ARE NOW BLESSED WITH TWO BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTERS NAMED Jadyn and Megan. As for our marriage, we are celebrating ten years  today, October 16,2014 (Yehheyy cheers to that) happy and fulfilled as a wife, as a woman and as a mother!

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… Jadyn is 5 and 1/2 years old and Megan is 25 months old when this picture was taken…

Life’s lesson I’ve learnt is that, it only takes courage and determination to achieve the hardest goal you’ve ever thought you have in your life. I remember my family and friends told me “I am too ambitious to dream of marrying an American”. I had this saying before, By hook or by crook, whatever happens I will marry the man of my dreams”. I could say that I am stronger now. I am proud of my past. If not because of it, I would not be here right now living happily with my wonderful husband and daughters. I hope this will serve as inspiration to those who lost hope finding their love.

P.S. You see, I felt I was in a hurry finding love but it took me almost 4 years finding the right one. I was a girl who was into foreigners but I was able to preserve myself for the man I marry. Albeit meeting tons of Western men, I take pride of myself that my husband was the only man I slept with. I have always been a “conservative” type of woman who believes a woman should only submit her body to the man right after marriage. I did not even sleep with him in the hotel room during his first visit. I would always come home every night to my parents’ house for I know they were waiting on me…

To my mother in-law whom I have not met in person, hope you read this. UNLESS YOU KNOW MY STORY, DON’T JUDGE ME.

Enough blah blah, duh but anyways… CHEERS TO BOTH OF US, IT’S OUR 10TH YEAR WEDDING ANNIVERSARY!!!

Here’s us today, ten years later!
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Simple Rules of a Relationship

It takes two to tango in order for a relationship to work and succeed. We should follow these 5 simple rules of a relationship if we want for it to last a lifetime. If we do, then all beautiful things will flow naturally.

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HEAR WHAT OPRAH WINFREY HAD TO SAY ABOUT MEN

It has been shared on Facebook a thousand times and I am sharing it here too so my dear readers can get an insight as to why men would stay or not. Enjoy!

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that’s not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can’t “be friends”. A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.

Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn’t marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within. Don’t EVER make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he has has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else’s man. If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending… Compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage… Deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE
individuals. Look for someone complimentary…
not supplementary.

Dating is fun… Even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes… When a man always know where you are, and you’re always readily available to him ~ he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother’s house. Never co-sign for a man. Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phil says… You should know that: You’re the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he’ll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he’s not the only one. They’re all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one. Ladies take care of your own hearts… ❤

Family Isn’t Always Blood

I so agree with the statement below. Family isn’t always blood but people  that touched your heart the most, people who show concern to you and care for you are family.

Second photo is of our first born and her grandma Jean. Jean is not related to us by blood but she serves/stands as our children’s grandma for she accepted them/us as her own family and so do we. You might ask me, where their real grandma is? Well, that could be a one million dollar question our children would have to ask us someday.

The fact is, they have not known or met their American grandma (my husband’s mother) for I have been judged since the beginning of my relationship with her son so we kept her out of our lives. She also denies her two grandchildren because I am a foreigner and she cannot accept that her son is happy with a Filipina.

It is just so awful how someone could be so judgmental without even knowing the person first. Well, it is her loss anyway, not ours. She missed the opportunities how it is to live having grand kids around being showered with tons of love and kisses.

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Where a Woman May Go to Choose a Husband

This is quite interesting if you read the entire thing, you’ll know what I am talking about and agree that some women are too picky and hard to please. I found this in my email and would like to share it to my readers for fun. Enjoy!

A store that sells husbands has just opened in New York City , where a woman
may go to choose a husband. Among the
instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates.
You may visit the store ONLY ONCE !
Women are impossible to please. I disagree!

There are six floors and the attributes of the men increase as the shopper
ascends the flights. There is,
however, a catch . .. you may choose any man from a particular floor, or
you may choose to go up a floor, but you
cannot go back down except to exit the building! So, a woman goes to the
Husband Store to find a husband . .

On the first floor the sign on the door reads:
Floor 1 – These men have jobs and love the Lord.

The second floor sign reads:
Floor 2 – These men have jobs, love the Lord, and love kids.

The third floor sign reads:
Floor 3 – These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, and are extremely
good looking.

“Wow,” she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.

She goes to the fourth floor and sign reads:

Floor 4 – These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop- dead
good looking and help with the housework.

“Oh, mercy me!”she exclaims, “I can hardly stand it!”

Still, she goes to the fifth floor and sign reads:

Floor 5 – These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, are drop- dead
gorgeous, help with the housework, and have a strong romantic streak.

She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign
reads:

Floor 6 – You are visitor 4,363,012 to this floor.
There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that
women are impossible to please.

Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store. Watch your step as you exit
the building, and have a nice day